For many families, sending their high school senior off to college was exciting, but a little emotional. So, as the holiday season approaches, many families are anticipating their high school senior making much-anticipated visits back home. College can be an unique and sometimes challenging transition for students and their parents, so these visits can actually be more challenging than anticipated. Here are our best tips for how parents can support their new college student and making visits smooth and enjoyable:
-Open communication: The first step to a successful holiday visit with newly-minted college student is open communication. Before they solidify their plans to visit, discuss your expectations with each other, and make a generalized plan. What things do they want to do during break? What things would you like them to participate in, such as family dinners or events? This can help you work together to minimize disappointment or misunderstandings later on.
-Respect their independence: College is a time for young adults to gain newfound independence, and learn to navigate the world on their own terms. When they return home, they may still desire some level of independence. Respect their newfound autonomy, give them space, and trust them to make responsible decisions. It’s helps to resist the urge to revert back to the parent-child relationship you had when they still lived under your roof, and remembering they now living on their own can help smooth out the dynamic.
Reconnect and bond: Use this time to reconnect and bond with your college student. Engage in activities you typically enjoy together, whether it's cooking, playing board games, or taking a walk. Sharing experiences can help you strengthen your relationship and create lasting memories. It also helps create new, fun memories that you can share as they move into adulthood.
-Help them balance freedom and structure: Finding the right balance between freedom and structure is essential. Your college student might appreciate the freedom to sleep in, but they also need some structure to make the most of their break. Discuss any obligations or responsibilities they should be aware of, like family gatherings or chores.
-Support them by listening and not offering advice unless asked: College life can be demanding, and students may come home with stress or concerns. Encourage open discussions about their experiences, and be a source of emotional support. If they're struggling with academic or personal issues, offer guidance and assistance in finding solutions. Additionally, be mindful of their desire to spend time with friends from school during the holidays. Embrace these friendships and make them feel welcome in your home, as it can help your college student enjoy and want to be home more.
-Prepare for their departure with encouragement: As the holiday season comes to an end, be prepared for the departure of your college student. Saying goodbye can be tough, but supporting their return to school with encouraging words and a sense of excitement for their next semester can make the transition smoother.
Having a college student return home for the holidays is a special and often eagerly anticipated time for parents. By communicating openly, respecting their independence, and providing emotional support, parents can ensure that their child's time at home is enjoyable and nurturing. Here’s to creating memories and cherishing this time together!
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